[lovich]

>Saves my time and I don't see how it hurts anyone.

Its a lie? People are looking for the equivalent of a mechanical turk in terms of putting effort into making the upfront connection instead of just being one of the numberless connections you could try and make in a night with low up front effort.

If they find out after you get some sort of relationship going that you outsourced your initial contact to a computer program, I would be surprised if it was taken well.

[janalsncm]

Tinder already provides canned ice breakers. I wouldn’t be surprised if they started using ChatGPT to write better ones.

[kordlessagain]

If the query is good, that’s not a lie.

[citboin]

I’ve considered outsourcing all of my online dating to humans that handle that professionally. The point is to get to the first REAL date and skip the B.S.

[lovich]

That’s a thought you could have, most people will generally find you an inhuman asshole for enacting it.

The point for relationships for most people is to make a human connection, not speed run to an arbitrary gate and count all the steps to that gate as “B.S.”

[janalsncm]

You also have to keep in mind that very little of online dating was real in the first place. You’re using pictures taken who knows when, in ideal situations, photoshopped to hell. Texting a person is not at all the same as talking to them, people can and already do use other resources (friends, the internet) to make themselves seem more interesting online. It’s a game. I’m in the get to the real date as quickly as possible camp as well.

Tinder might not like it, though, because they want you to swipe as much as possible. But we should understand that Tinder’s interests are not aligned with those of its users.

[austhrow743]

Meeting in person isn’t arbitrary. It’s when you can start making that human connection.