[browserman]

There seems to be a big uptick in the number of people who like to scold others for their family planning choices, especially women, and especially for choosing to delay beyond some particular threshold the scolder takes to be ideal (often representative of some imagined sepia toned traditional time). The truth is if you're reasonably affluent nearly all of these supposed downsides can be mitigated and are usually preferable to trying to take care of kids on a shoestring budget while still building a professional and economic foundation.

[goldenchrome]

Incorrect. Many think the downsides can be mitigated but the fact is that many women over 30, and especially over 35 will struggle with infertility. Methods like IVF may work but you’re often signing up for a year of stress and anxiety for every child you want. Methods like egg freezing fail far more than people think, and then you’re left with an empty family for the remaining 40 years of your life. It’s a bleak situation and I think people should stop putting it off. At the very least, they should put in some serious thought before they’re 30 to understand their options.

[lotsofpulp]

My comment was not intended to scold anyone. Just an opinion based on experience of having to take care of a couple kids, and watching my dad neglect his kids to take care of his excessively old dad.

> usually preferable to trying to take care of kids on a shoestring budget while still building a professional and economic foundation.

Which does not apply to the person deciding to lease space on a cruise boat for 12 years for a few hundred thousand dollars.

[nautilius]

Sure, I guess you can hire someone to represent you posthumously to attend your child’s high school graduation or wedding.