[Cloudef]

Alcohol helped me to gain social wisdom (did not drink before that at all, which I think is the reason I got bit outcast from people)

[more_corn]

It’s possible to gain social wisdom without alcohol.

Here’s one for free: Surround yourself with people you like. Be the friend to them that you’d want for yourself.

That’s all the social wisdom you need.

[archagon]

If you have social anxiety, this is essentially a Catch 22.

[thefz]

That's like going to a depressed person and saying "come on, cheer up!".

[boppo1]

>Surround yourself with people you like.

This can be exceedingly difficult in many areas. If you're in a big city it's probably no problem, but elsewhere it can be challenging or impossible to find people you really enjoy sober.

I don't mean that I can't get on with just about anyone while sober. But I find I'm 'faking it' and simply giving them the idea I'm having a good time. People who I'm genuinely excited to spend time with are few and far between.