[mikrl]

>the trap of thinking that social skills are "bullshit"

At some point I thought this way because I wasn’t good at them and was too anxious to even attempt to work on them.

Then I realized

- ‘programming’ humans is really fun, especially when you can improve them :)

- everything else you and I do in our lives is related (directly or indirectly) to social status, so why not eliminate inefficiencies by using social skills to do the social stuff instead of lossily via technical skills and money

[zeroxp]

"Programming other people to be better" sounds like a really egocentric way to approach people skills. If you only see others as objects who can either help or hinder you get what you want, its going to catch up sooner or later.

Maybe its better to work on developing empathy? Leadership and Self Deception is a decent book on people skills that really emphasizes this approach.

[0x008]

Do you have any resources you might recommend?

[SkirlockJones]

Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/39330937-the-laws-of-hum...