[commandlinefan]

> force you to pretend im not balding

Huh, that's an interesting analogy and not one I'd ever really thought about before. After all, there are people with terrible combovers and toupees that most people pretend they don't notice (no offense if that's you, OP). I'm trying to imagine how much "not playing along" you'd have to do before you ended up in HR over it, and I'd think it would have to be quite a bit - certainly just pretending you didn't notice and not agreeing or disagreeing when the guy in question says his hair is completely natural wouldn't be enough.

[jl6]

The hair analogy would be a person feeling distress at having hair, and so shaving it off. They shouldn’t be harassed for doing this, but they would cross a line if they then sought a place in an alopecia support group.