[pydanny]

At 40 I had a stalled career and an unfortunate marriage where we truly disliked reach other; I was extremely unhappy and bitter. I felt that I was stuck and wondered if this was my lot in life.

I stepped clear. I got divorced. I started over. The coding skills I had I re-applied to things I wanted to do. My ex moved on and found someone good for her.

In the years that followed I found the love of my life and had a beautiful daughter. Restarting was a great move for me.

But a lot of the bitterness and anger remained. I've been a total jerk at times. It took a long time to get over the frustrations caused by staying in my old place for so long. I found therapy and constructive outlets for myself, got over many of the dark feelings, and I believe I've become a better person for it.

My story is my own, not yours. However, what I can say is get yourself to a therapist. If you can change your life now, why not try to do so?