[beachy]

My brother in law died slowly and painfully from motor neurone disease. The worst way to go.

He was a real fighter, and had several goals - to see his son turn 21, to get to some big rowing champs, etc.

He achieved some of those goals, and missed out on others. But as his disease wore on, he became so disabled and in so much pain that life was a true misery. Not just for him but for his loved ones, who were also his carers.

His last few months were not good for anyone and both my wife and I decided we would rather shuffle off than extend our lives in a similar situation.

[jacquesm]

There are some other stories playing out in my family right now that are very close analogies to yours and I hope that you managed to eventually heal and deal with the stress. I can see all kinds of stress fractures running through my family because of the enormous pressure exerted by caring for people in the final days of their lives. It's very painful to see people cause all kinds of damage to each other and themselves with the best of intentions.

[beachy]

Good luck to you and your family. Time heals all wounds, as it did for us, though scars of course remain.

[jacquesm]

Thank you. Likewise!