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by 97s 1279 days ago
I am not sure you have failed at all. You just haven't discovered what you want to do. It sounds to me like you are an adventurist, hardworking, never give up kind of person. Life isn't defined as money = success, or job = success. People who live that way are no more happy than you seem to be right now.

Instead of searching for a job, search for a passion. You seem to have parents who want to support you and believe in you. That is more than most have.

I don't know where to tell you to start, but if anything be a little easier on yourself. The fact you made this post alone shows that you don't want to quit, which is a major factor in being successful.
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user-extended 1279 days ago
Thank you.

I am indeed blessed with loving parents, for whom I am thankful for every day.

I don't know what my passion is, indeed. I don't know how to even start looking for it either.

Thanks again for the words of encouragement.

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97s 1278 days ago
It is hard to know what you enjoy. I am 38 and I work a part time job and run a business from home. Is it exactly what I want to do? Absolutely not, but does it pay the bills, yes. Does it let me be home with my family more, yes. I have a degree in economics and turned down so many awesome jobs from schoolmates who wanted me to work with/for them. I think they define me as unsuccessful because I don't make X dollars a year like they do. I make significantly less than I could make, but I enjoy my life a lot more than they do I think. I have less fancy things, but more enjoyable moments.

Life is mysterious, confusing and lovely all at the same time. Focusing on the impossible big picture of what you should be doing, and where you should be is a trap. Enjoy each unique day the best you can. Sure you don't know what you need to do to be successful tomorrow, but I am sure you can think of things you can do today to be successful; even if its just helping a neighbor or a parent. Define success for each day based on its circumstances. When you fail, write down why and move onward.

Every little success adds up to a new mindset.

Good luck.

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