[asveikau]

> There’s lots to be said in favor of the asshole who moves past a conflict as soon as it’s over.

I think I used to fit something like this description. I was very blunt about disagreements but I was always well intentioned and forgiving. Sometimes people took the bluntness too seriously and couldn't see that I was trying to help them.

I've since softened up somewhat. In retrospect I think some of the bluntness was a symptom of externally imposed stress.