[nvln]

Suggestion based on our parenting results, YMMV:

1. Enforced limits are adversarial.

2. Conversations around how the internet/devices etc are fantastic while fraught with a million pitfalls may seem too much for a 9yo to handle, but you might be surprised if you try.

3. In general, having healthier alternatives and some timely reminders work great. For example: If he is spending hours browsing the lego website, perhaps he'd love to try out a large lego project.

4. Teens and pre-teens right now will inhabit a world that is over-reactive to online stimuli. Being hygienic / responsible about the online world and screen time is an important skill to cultivate.

[nouveaux]

"1. Enforced limits are adversarial."

One of the primary jobs for parents is to set limits. Bedtime, sugar, chores, homework, etc are all forms of limits. If screentime is more adversarial than bedtime, could this be an indication of addiction?

[nvln]

Emphasis is on "enforcement" than limits and we've applied it to all limits. In general, we (child + parents) agree on some limits. Sometimes they are broken, we discuss and adjust or re-iterate.

It does take more time initially, but it has resulted in a more responsible child and a more respectful child - parent relationship.

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Addiction: if the limits get broken frequently, it definitely is a sign of addiction and indicates a need for healthier alternatives.