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by Someone1234 1292 days ago
> That should be your responsibility mate.

This type of commentary online is contradictory and lazy.

- Parent puts in effort to manage their child's time (and or access).

WHY AREN'T YOU PARENTING?!

- Parent doesn't put in effort to manage their child's time (and or access).

WHY AREN'T YOU PARENTING?!

Plus when a parent really goes whole-hog on the whole protective thing they get criticized for being authoritarian and or not allowing their kid to make mistakes/grow into an adult.

The direct implication here is that a child should only have exactly as much time on technology as the parent has free time to sit behind them and look over their shoulder. Yet if you phased a parent doing that as a question from the child's point-of-view, it would get HEAVILY criticized (and perhaps not incorrectly either). In essence all parenting today exists in a super position (or "Schrödinger's Parenting" if you will) wherein everything they do is incorrect and or a complete contradiction.

Seemingly to comes from two groups:

- Those who have never had kids.

- Those who had kids before technology really existed like it does today.

These people don't really have anything valuable to offer the discussion.

2 comments

Well said.

I’m not sure when we crossed that threshold where actively trying to limit technology in a fair and automated way access became “lazy parenting” but I don’t like it.

I belong to neither of the groups you mentioned. The only responsibility a parent has is to their child - there is nothing contradictory or lazy about this.

Otherwise you seem to project personal stuff I have no opinion on.