[paulcole]

It seems insane to me to think about taking to my parents weekly. I know they exist, I don’t need to talk to them.

What seems unimaginable to one of us is not just normal but desirable to the other.

The same is true for deciding where to live.

[brewdad]

I'm in the same boat. Sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with the way I'm wired but while I love my Dad and we've always had a good relationship, I don't need to talk to him regularly.

Maybe it's because I didn't grow up with the strong family bonds that so many in this thread have. We lived 2.5 hours away from my Dad's family and saw them about 6 times a year. We lived 1500 miles from my Mom's family and I probably visited my Mom's parents a dozen times in my entire life. Now, my wife and I live 2500 miles from our parents. Half the year it's further than that since one set winters in Florida and the other in Asia. At times I feel like I've totally missed out on something but at the same time I wouldn't move back "home" probably ever. I've lived in my current house for 18 years. It's the longest I've ever lived anywhere. This is "home" now.

[nerdjon]

Just to clarify, what I find insane is the numbers because it doesn't line up with my experience within most of the people I generally talk too