[Klinky]

I think your attempts to be profound come off as incredibly naive with regards to the realities of a traumatic upbringing. These relationships impact your whole life.

You do not get to choose your parents. Your parents should choose a good time & place to have children & not cave to pressure from foolish people waxing poetic about finding meaning by living through their children.

I absolutely will blame my abusers, and I will blame their abusers too. I don't see how "earth families" will improve without accountability. We certainly don't need people telling victims to stop asking for it.