[edanm]

To clarify, I totally understand the context.

I'm specifically saying that saying a phrase like "they don't look like software developers" just because they're good looking women is in itself a bad (and false!) meme to circulate, which in itself is a bad thing, regardless of context.

[teux]

Yeah. That’s all I was trying to say. I’m not speaking about anything related to shitty recruiters, how hard it is to be a man online (??), or how much it sucks to be the target of sex-based scams.

Just. Saying it sucks to be a woman in tech and statements and sentiments like this are part of the reason why.

Still no one answered my question: “What does a software engineer look like then?”

I think it was a combination of me being not explicit enough and touching on an obviously sore subject for others. But I don’t have the energy to unravel it or debate.