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by Brajeshwar 1291 days ago
As parents we wanted to be one of the better ones. A while back, we started with Bringing up Bébé, and since then learnt How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk; we were even Prepared while Reviving Ophelia. This year, we realized, we want to just settle on being A Good Enough Parent.

1. https://www.amazon.com/Bringing-Up-Bébé-Discovers-Parenting/...

2. https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/14516638...

3. https://www.amazon.com/Prepared-What-Kids-Need-Fulfilled/dp/...

4. https://www.amazon.com/Reviving-Ophelia-Saving-Selves-Adoles...

5. https://brajeshwar.com/2022/books/

6. https://goodenoughparenting.com/

10 comments

Loved How to talk so kids will listen

Also a fan of

Our babies ourselves - https://www.amazon.com/Our-Babies-Ourselves-Biology-Culture/...

Hunt, Gather, Parent - https://www.amazon.com/Our-Babies-Ourselves-Biology-Culture/...

"How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk." Replace "Kids" with "Adults" and it still works. :-)
Sitting with my newborn sleeping on my chest currently. I’ve really enjoyed Brain Rules for Baby and currently reading Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child. Both good, feel like the latter is going to be a pivotal part of our parenting. My wife really enjoyed The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read.
A slight pivot but worth mentioning, I've collected a number of "children's" books that (for me) are just as good - better? - for adults. For example:

- "What do you do with a problem?" https://www.amazon.com/What-Do-You-Problem/dp/1943200009

- "What do you do with an idea?" https://www.amazon.com/What-Do-You-Idea/dp/1938298071/

- "What do you do with a chance?" https://www.amazon.com/What-Do-You-Chance/dp/1943200734/

- "I wish you more" https://www.amazon.com/Encouragement-Gifts-Uplifting-Books-G...

Of course, there are others. These are just the ones that come to mind ATM.

I've given the "What do...?" books as gifts to plenty of adult and young adults. My point is, a book doesn't have to be 200+ pages to have an impact.

My recommendation for parenting book is The Last Samurai by Helen DeWitt
And Stephen King for bedtime?

Edit: oh wait you were being serious

Your username has both 'Bra' and 'War' in it. I don't know what to feel.
This is fantastic. I'm a relatively new parent, and I really feel like I could use some of these materials. Thank you for sharing.
I didn't realize I might have the wrong link to the book everywhere I wrote until now (this comment thread). "A Good Enough Parent: A Book on Child-Rearing" by Bruno Bettelheim.

It is not a popular book. The approaches and ideas were great though, and that was indeed the beauty of the book. Here is the correct link - https://www.amazon.com/Good-Enough-Parent-Book-Child-Rearing...

Highly recommend looking into the author... was about to order the book but saw a lot of stuff I didn't like: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bruno_Bettelheim
From Wikipedia: “ Much of his work was discredited after his death due to fraudulent academic credentials, allegations of patient abuse, accusations of plagiarism, and lack of oversight by institutions and the psychological community.”

The article describes all of this in detail.

Also “How to talk to little kids so they’ll listen”. For ages 2-7. https://www.wob.com/en-gb/books/joanna-faber/how-to-talk-so-...

Incidentally this and the original are some of the best managing resources you can read.

> https://goodenoughparenting.com/

wow, the book is only physical and it costs $60 to get it where I live... (without import taxes)

Add it to your Wishlist on Amazon and watch it for a while. I'm pretty sure an American will resell one. I got mine used on Amazon.in after stumbling on a fine day that someone was selling it for ₹399 (~$5). So, bought it. They shipped it all the way from the USA and it took more than a month.

Checking it right now shows ₹1,388 (~$17) for the Paperback and ₹2,261 (~$28) for the Hardcover edition.

https://www.dropbox.com/s/4tf95ulhkt4tn9g/screenshot%202022-...

"A Good Enough Parent: A Book on Child-Rearing" by Bruno Bettelheim. Here is the correct link - https://www.amazon.com/Good-Enough-Parent-Book-Child-Rearing...
Which one of these did you like the most?
I have read many parenting books, and those listed above are the ones I believe others parents should read through. However, if you want to pick just one, you might want to settle on the Good Enough Parents. It is a fun read.
> Good Enough Parents

There are at least three books with similar name, can you please say the author as well?

"A Good Enough Parent: A Book on Child-Rearing" by Bruno Bettelheim. Here is the correct link - https://www.amazon.com/Good-Enough-Parent-Book-Child-Rearing...
Thanks, appreciate it!