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by epgui
1298 days ago
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#3 is nearly impossible in practice, because your audience will not sit patiently and entertain you while you do this. In nearly all cases, they will derail your explanation and bring in all sorts of tangential issues that may not even be relevant. Threading through this will require more energy than everyone is willing to spend, so someone will find a way to cut the conversation short. They might also be upset because they feel like you think they're slow, whether or not that's true and no matter how nice your delivery is. |
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If I have to, I will say something like "It seems to me like we're not eye to eye on this important topic, and I want us to be in sync. Would you mind if I ask you a few questions to understand where we are disconnected so I can improve my own thinking here?"
I literally say this stuff, and I've never had anyone say "no, I'd rather not get in sync w you on this." So I contextualize it, we work through it, and usually it takes <5 minutes for me to figure out where the other person's head is different from mine.
Then you figure out what to do about it, which may be another conversation (you may also learn that their reasons are good so you end up being persuaded by them which is also great)