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by jmann99999 1293 days ago
Sorry for your loss. It's never easy.

However, I do want to take away the stigma of eating alone, watching a movie alone, etc. In my previous life, I was a tech consultant who traveled with a team and then was left behind by myself to finish the job. I spent more time alone in New Orleans, Columbus, Newark, and Dallas than I would have ever expected.

What I learned is that many people are alone. Those of us that were alone, together often met others and weren't so alone. It made the time better.

More importantly, you may not want to go out and eat dinner or go to a movie. That is a reasonable choice. That said, if you do and if you are worried about people thinking about you being alone you should know that most people don't notice anyone else. So they are not making judgments.

Most importantly, there are a lot of us who are alone out there. If you sit at the bar (and don't worry about drinking or not), you'll fit right in with the rest of us who are doing the same thing. We're all in this together.

2 comments

"Yes they're sharing a drink they call loneliness, but it's better than drinking alone."

Billy Joel - The Pianoman.

Going to a movie alone sucks. It also sucks when going with someone, just not as much.

The better choice is to watch the movie at home. Then you can pause it when you need to use the bathroom, you can eat whatever food/snacks you want without paying a fortune, the sound won't be too loud, you won't have to deal with obnoxious jerks around you, you won't have to worry about getting shot by some crazy off-duty cop, you won't have to sit through 30 minutes of ads, I could go on and on...

I like going to the movies by myself. I used to do this all the time when I was single. I can just watch the movie and not worry about anything else.

It's ok to go to movies with other people too, but you aren't really socializing while you are watching the movie, unless you want to disturb the people around you.

I love going to the movie theater by myself. I dont think it sucks at all and its quite great.

Its easier to get fully immersed. Its easier to find a seat. I can still chat with friends who saw the movie later by themselves.

>I dont think it sucks at all and its quite great.

You enjoy sitting there uncomfortable with a full bladder? Or you don't mind missing 5 minutes of the movie when you need to go?