[elenaferrantes]

"I will be a health(ier) weight, if I continue to put the effort in. And who knows?" Fit and normal people don’t put any effort. As long as you’ll see this as an effort/reward thing you will fail. My advice : focus on eating normally every day. 3 meals / day. Don’t focus on long term goals.

[JshWright]

This seems like a comment that is very much lacking in empathy (I don't really mean that pejoratively, it's just an observation... I don't think you feel much empathy for OP, likely because of very different experiences).

For many people (presumably OP as well), what you are describing is very much "effort". There are many "normal" people who have to put in a lot of effort to just eat three meals a day and nothing else. Food is very often a coping mechanism for handling stress, etc. Eating literally causes their body to release chemicals that make them feel better, and replacing that coping mechanism with something else is something that require a significant amount of ongoing effort. It's (truly) great that this isn't your experience, but that doesn't mean it isn't the reality many other people are living with every day.

[elenaferrantes]

Hi, I’m obese and struggling for 25 years. What I mean is life long normal weight people don’t do any effort. An obese who tries to loose or maintain weight make great efforts and is doomed to fail because no one can sustain it on the long run. We have to find a way to do it without effort. The first step is to avoid setting goals and don’t be in "warrior" mindset. Weight is not something to conquer, but a lagging result of your habits. Better to focus on strategies to avoid overeating each day. I’m trying this since few months. Keep the faith guys :-)