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Hard situation to be in... Here are different things that have helped me or some of my friends (none with exactly the same situation, but with similarities...). Many things have a small effect short term that compound over the time... - Finding a good counselor you click with (they had to change to find the good one) had been very important and very impactful for 2 of my friends with dire situations... This had been a gradual, over several years, but "spectacular". I think everybody could be better/happier if could do that at some point.
(On the top of that, some of my friends got diagnosed "gifted", hypersensitive or on the autism spectrum, and that helped them to understand past things and to navigate present. And I think there is an over-representation of those situation among HN readers...) - Volunteering, if possible in a group, and helping people you are in contact with, and doing something else than what you do for a living. This is not game changing, but you do help some people, meet new people (that you don't choose), test something different - Going to work regularly on a small coworking space you kinda click with (me was a self-managed community one). Short term I enjoyed having lunch or coffee with people different than me or my colleagues (and be less alone all day), learning things, giving them a hand at the occasion. Longer term I made some acquaintances and even friends. - Trying one/some extracurricular activities with the same group of people, some commitment, and fixed time in the week. Those constraints lower the motivation required to keep attending it, which is very important to be able to keep doing it, and then secondly, being in position to benefits from it. It is much harder to keep doing things in you own (ex. running alone, or learning guitar on youtube) - Trying to live abroad for couple of years (and doing some of the things listed above at the same time). Abroad it is often easier to connect with people. Because people does not know you (yet) and you are in a very new place, you can sometimes feel more free from many (unconscious) "constraints" or burden you were carrying. Being in a very new environment can be stimulating. It helps to get a different insights on you. Depending were you are from and what you like, the place can be very different, with very different experience (personally I met people who really got something from moving from Europe to (busy) Saigon, Chiang Mai or (relatively quiet) Vientiane, or American people moving to Saigon, Vientiane or France) |