[acdha]

Those are common tropes in certain circles, but none of what you wrote is true as even a few moments of thinking about it analytically will confirm. For example, say that top 1% of attractive men are each maintaining 10 relationships - an absurdly high number - that might change things slightly for the top decile but does it really affect the median at all?

There are some people who push this for political or marketing reasons (think about how much money Andrew Tate or Jordan Petersen have made this way) but a lot of it depends on selectively ignoring the evidence. All of the men who I’ve heard talk like this have some combination of unrealistic expectations (Elon Musk can party with rock stars because his wealth is measured in hundreds of billions; J. Random IT Worker needs to bring more to the table) or, almost universally, being unwilling to accept that their attitudes and politics were the underlying cause. This can be tragic where you know women who are looking for men who won’t rape them or treat them like NPCs and men who are convinced that the problem is their lack of abs, and the latter spend all of their time hanging out with other men telling them to treat women as NPCs and only considering the hottest people they know.