[Waterluvian]

I think from my perspective, this entire line of reasoning betrays a lack of empathy. It’s deeply important to many people, especially for safety.

If you unilaterally decide it’s an unworthy stage of the process, that’s likely to be very self limiting and signals quite a bit about this person’s ability to “eat their vegetables of life.”

Another perspective: would you interview someone who just sends, “I don’t do well with résumés or phone screenings. Let’s jump to the interview.” ?

Edit: to more directly answer your question, if both parties prefer that then by all means! But that’s not exactly what this thread is about.

[AnIdiotOnTheNet]

Honestly this take is very strange to me and I think is indicative of a huge difference in how people experience dating apps. Another comment said the desire to chat for days before meeting was correlated with women, which we know receive orders of magnitude more messages on average then men.

Hypothesis: this behavior is correlated with how many messages you receive, so very attractive men with a photographer buddy likely have the same approach.

If you have 10 suitors at a time, it makes sense to filter them using days of texting. Much less time investment than going on a date with each of them.

When you have 1 or 2 matches a month, the texting game is a bigger waste of time.