[JauntyHatAngle]

It's all personal, so you aren't wrong, but I have the near opposite opinion.

I believe the days messaging are a waste of time as I have no clue if a spark is there in person before I see you in the flesh. And very quickly, short time for physical attraction, and within 2-3 minutes for interaction, I can tell if there is the potential for something growing. None of that happens in messaging beyond very basic filtering of basic comms.

Messaging back and forth really doesn't mean much for me. I spend relationships with a person in the flesh, and message not very often, so initial contact on dating websites beyond a few basic messages back and forth are essentially just more dancing around before we get to the brass tax of whether there is any chance at all of attraction.

But that's me and how it worked for me and my partner. Everyone's different of course.

[pmoriarty]

"initial contact on dating websites beyond a few basic messages back and forth are essentially just more dancing around before we get to the brass tax of whether there is any chance at all of attraction."

"brass tacks"[1], not "brass tax".

[1] - https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/brass%20tacks

[JauntyHatAngle]

No you see I use a brass abacus to do my tax im not an idiot I'm right thanks.

Yup, saved it jaunty, you've still got it.

[caseyscottmckay]

Ha. TIL. Boneappletea.