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by qlm 1303 days ago
I find text chatting with a stranger to very difficult compared to talking in person. I've never managed to move from the chat stage on a dating app to a real date.

I generally find people easy to talk to in person. All my romantic partners have been people I've met in real life. It's much easier to gauge their reactions, read their body language, etc. Waiting for a response on a chat fills me with anxiety.

Once I've met someone in real life, text chatting becomes much easier.

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"I find text chatting with a stranger to very difficult compared to talking in person"

I've always just talked on the phone. I know a lot of younger people are afraid of phone conversations too, but I'm fortunate to be of an older generation for whom it's not a big deal.

I guess you could also try a Zoom date.

I'm from an older generation that used to talk on the phone a lot, and I still hate talking on the phone nowadays.

I think it has something to do with the absolutely abysmal audio quality of today's phones, which makes it a lot harder for some of us to process speech and hear the more subtle vocal communications.

Those "you're muted"s really help set the mood.