[legerdemain]

I've often heard the "offer a helping hand" advice and made a habit of trying it with coworkers and acquaintances. I've learned, over the years, that many people are uncomfortable accepting casual favors from people they're not close to. And I mean pretty small favors, like offering car rides for people who don't drive or helping haul heavy stuff from Craigslist. I have now started to fight my tendency to offer help until I'm extra sure it's welcome.