[redstonefreedom]

Arguments in relationships was one of the first “off-label” circumstances that came to mind when I saw this post.

Thinking about it a bit past the initial reaction though, I think it’d actually be a massive boon for relationships. Sometimes we get so hung-up on the wording, that may or not may not have been clearly expressive, but due to some slight subtlety, changed the course of the interaction from a potentially positive one to a toxically negative one. I think if you can just subvert the “you did say that! You don’t remember??/No I didn’t/Yes you did” you can focus on the actual content of the conflict resolution.

I’d personally want to know if I said X-potentially-hurtful-thing. Or was the other person just hearing it? What’s workable, what’s not workable. Post-mortems for arguments (assuming the relationship is a viable one, ie genuinely collaborative & not contingent on point-keeping) would be a lot easier & constructive conversations can be realized much more quickly.