[jhogendorn]

We have learnt these lessons the hard way, repeatedly, until maybe some of it has sunk in.

I've lost count of how many times i've pointed out that you cannot put good and bad actions on a scale and try to balance them. Good actions are good in one pile, and bad actions are bad in their own pile, and that pile has to stay real, real small. Conflict avoidant people who are new (to you, ie me the 10yr veteran vs the 3yr 'newbie') really, really struggle with 'ostracising'.

Our code of conduct is pretty average tbqh. Do you have any examples of ones that you would consider exemplary or have particularly interesting points or approaches?