[ddelt]

I love the Friends reference behind both product names. I also have been using Obsidian for this (and before that, any generic note taking software).

To me this sort of software is really powerful if you have the time to constantly tend to it. I wish I had this built into my mind.

[theptip]

> I wish I had this built into my mind

One thing I am realizing over the years is that while it might seem so, the best “social people” don’t actually have this built into their mind, they have some external system for capturing facts like the OP, and do the work to maintain it.

Whether that is writing the name of the person you met at dinner into your diary when you get home (including info like spouse/children), or calendar invites for birthdays of everyone you know, or whatever.

Reading “How to win friends and influence people” gives the same broad advice.

As you say, it’s a lot of work (though it might look effortless to interlocutors). But the flip-side of that observation is that anyone can get better by just using these practices. (Of course, social people are by definition more interested in this sort of study.)

[vishyav665]

Obsidian seems to be a pretty powerful tool honestly a bit intimidated by it. I am trying to understand how important a relationship manager tool would be in both the professional and personal context. https://forms.gle/SxRjGV73L1fGt2df7 if you're interested in adding your input. So far many people are interested in having this solved for them but the time-to-value is too much overhead having to capture all the data and the importing of contacts from other places seems to be a real struggle.

[EFreethought]

I know!

Can this software BE any more awesome?