I recall seeing a thread somewhere saying tcpflow would not add this capability and they point people to ssldump [1][2] and even that has some limitations.
With TLS 1.3 and Perfect Forward Safety, even knowing the secret key is no longer enough. Otherwise, ssldump is a tool that would dump sessions if you knew the server private key and were somehow able to force negotiating a non-PFS TLS 1.2 cipher suite.