[ilyt]

Sooo the server is banned, problematic users move off it coz they can't get anything from outside on it and... move on

How that helps ? It just makes impossible for small server admin to take vacation...

[dsr_]

Small server admin should not have open enrollment. Start friends-only. Quite possibly stay friends-only.

When comfortable, change to friends-of-friends.

And if you're going to grow past being comfortable with everyone on your server, have a backup admin you trust.