| I’ve been working intentionally on this for over a year after I got laid off and decided I didn’t want to work for someone else again The best explanation in what I’ve read is, purpose is “living the truest expression of yourself as a human being” - Oprah To get there I recommend her book, “The Path Made Clear.” Go through it slowly. Your path will unfold in parallel. I’m working on living authentically (saying what I need to say in the moment not thinking of it after the fact) which is needed to find and live your purpose. Tactically, at its core, the first level is getting your basic needs met. Beyond that, it’s figuring out who you want to serve and how to use the gifts of your personality to serve them in a way that’s fulfilling to you. In my year off I took many courses and read many books. 100DaysOfNoCode.com, 30 podcasts in 30 days, Pencil Pirates, Hassan Osman’s course creation course, Decafquest’s philosophy course. I recommend following your curiosity and taking courses that pique your interests. Through this I discovered I could draw. It’s been therapeutic and useful in many ways. I’ve found my purpose, now I’ve got to figure out how to make a living off it. My purpose unfolded organically. I tried to ignore it because I couldn’t figure out how to make a living off it, but it kept coming up. It brings joy to myself and others. It’s something I couldn’t have figured out by following someone else’s path. My purpose is to help people get unstuck. I can do it in 15 minutes with only 3 questions. The framework I developed evolved organically. There are 6 categories of questions to help people get unstuck. People love the sessions. Seeing them start with concern or uncertainty and end with relief and confidence is the most rewarding experience for me. I wish you all the best on your journey |
If you’re over 40, read From Strength to Strength. If you don’t already, learn to meditate. There are many different methods. Find one that feels right for you. Move your body in the way you naturally wanted to as a child. For example, I loved riding my bike and doing cartwheels so I bicycle and do yoga.
I recommend Meditations of Marcus Aurelius. The next book on my reading list is Soulcraft by Bill Plotkin.
As far as happiness, it’s not a destination. It comes in moments. You have happiness. We all do. The trick is to be present when it happens. The key to happiness is decreasing the moments of unhappiness, learning how to let go. A mentor of mine told me to figure out how to only give 1 fuck a week. It changed my life.
Journal, analyze what brings you moments of unhappiness and structure your life to eliminate as many of those as possible. Write what brings you more moments of happiness and how to increase those.