[roguecoder]

She's a sociopath who seems pathologically opposed to objecting to any aspect of culture, or asking men to do anything. Given that the behaviors she is working around actively hurt men, there are responses other than "you should stay at home with your kids while pretending to work until your company fires you" that would be win-wins. The problems she sees can not be solved by any change in individual women's behavior; that way lies madness. It is going to require a systematic cultural change in the behavior, assumptions and attitudes of people with institutional power, most of them men. The "you must homeschool" is a good example of this: improving public schools is a valid alternative that would help everyone, not just children of women like her.

The life that is left for men in her world sounds incredibly un-appealing. I am a sperm donor, a potential source of income as I pay her to produce children for me, or on the non-romantic side, I'm someone to trick into doing most of the work in a start up while she takes credit. Regardless, I am expected to work jobs that consume my entire life, prevent me from having a relationship with my children and my wife's goal is not to have an equal or communicative relationship with me: she's just trying to keep me happy so we'll both be in our kids lives. That makes it my responsibility to be happy, and if I'm not it is a world-ending failure on my part. Have we seen Mad Men? The lesson from that show for me was "Holy Crap, that sucked!"

Humans are social creatures; any effective change will not be the product of individual behavior in isolation from all others. She takes as given: "nothing can change except my behavior" and then optimized under a set of terrible circumstances. Unfortunately her optimizations make her life better at the cost of making other people's lives worse.