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by viach 1325 days ago
90% of times when strangers were telling me compliments it ended up with "street scam", iukwim
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I'd also recommend that folks reading this remember not to put too much pressure on women when trying this out. They are already approached a lot and often will feel the need not to communicate their discomfort having had saying No go badly many times in the past.

Just remember that when you approach someone they might be uncomfortable even if they don't say that. Keep the pressure on yourself to end things, don't put it on the stranger you've chosen

Can something not be gendered, for once?
Why? There is a natural power imbalance between men and women. If you find it tiresome then you're getting a sense of how tiring it can be to be a woman in public.
It's important to pretend that's not true, because it makes men feel bad about themselves.