[kren]

Your ego and your conscious mind are the source of most of your problems. Meditate to delve deeper and find out who you truly are. (Or more accurately, who you are not.) If you can tap into and sync up with this inner self, your problems will melt away and you will find happiness without needing much.

This isn’t to say that you must get rid of your conscious mind or ego. Simply understand why they’re useful.

Your conscious mind is a focusing tool, like a coach, and your subconscious mind is like the players in charge of the doing. The conscious mind shouldn’t be the one trying to solve everything. The ego cares too much about things that don’t matter like pride, greed, and ruling the universe. It is just trying to protect you from harm and death.

Let go of these feelings and thoughts, and stop trying to be the supreme ruler of the universe. You cannot control nearly as much as you think you can, including yourself. You can only influence.

Be still, let life happen and flow with it like water. Translation: Be perceptive of what’s happening around you and within, then act appropriately by gently guiding everything toward the desired outcome without using force and striving. Patience is key here. Striving makes you use up your energy too quickly and potentially burn out.

When you achieve this state of mind, it feels like you can solve any problem using your mind and ingenuity, and nothing really bothers you anymore. You’ll only spend time on what truly matters to you and your life will become one that’s truly worth living.

[kiko123]

Been recently struggling with health and having a lot of time on my hands, I have gotten more into meditation. I like the way these thoughts of yours are going. While learning who 'I' am and who I am not might be a part of our introspective journey, are there any books you could recommend looking into as to support the practice of mindfulness and meditation?

[kren]

For this hands off way of thinking, I highly recommend the Tao te Ching and the Book of Leadership and Strategy (Tao te Ching part 2), translated by Thomas Cleary. I am a big fan of Taoism and Zen Buddhism.

Alan Watts is also a good resource to check out on YouTube for mindfulness meditation, though he’s not for everyone. You can find a few lectures about meditation and Zen Buddhism if you search around. For understanding who you are not, try Learning the Human Game: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=SsU9UUtELkw

The point of learning all this is because there’s a lot of stuff happening when you are meditating or being mindful in everyday life. It’s difficult to discern who is the real you. The big questions is: WHY are you behaving a certain way? What do you get out of it and who taught you? Where did it come from?

If society taught you so that you can be proper and fit in, it isn’t you. If you learned it through trauma or for the sake of pride/ego, it is not you. Pay attention to your emotional reactions to things. They are telling you that you want something to change. Then simply do what it takes to move that direction. No need to get mad or sad or wish it were different. That is all a waste of energy. (Avoid saying shoulda, woulda, coulda)

We are not our thoughts. Pay attention to when those arise and let them go. Your true self will have tons of energy and motivation, and you will not have any resistance in doing it. Let that energy carry you till you feel diminishing returns or fatigue, then figure out what you want to do next in the same manner.

[zuzuleinen]

Waking Up app helped me in these regards