[Shared404]

> I have never been called "cis" except by people with antagonistic tones trying to get a rise out of me.

I can tell you from personal experience that this says more about you than the word.

The majority of people in my circle would self describe as cis, and most people I interact with would self identify as cis if the meaning was explained to them.

[ilyt]

That's more about your social circle than everyone's elses tbh. On twitter I've almost exclusively used as mild derogative

[Cameri]

I've only heard it been used as an insult.

[MichaelCollins]

> I can tell you from personal experience that this says more about you than the word.

Backhanded insults like this won't convince me that I'm wrong. On the contrary, it shows me that you do intend to insult and that the word is in fact a slur.

[Shared404]

I did intend to insult you slightly with that phrase, I apologize. I was hotheaded and in the wrong for that.

However, it is not an insult at cis people, but people who behave in a way that would get cis used in a conversation against them - which usually takes place in a circumstance where someone who is not trans is telling someone who is trans that they know more about their life than the person in question.

The reason cisness is relevant here is because much like I as a white person will never be able to _fully_ understand a black persons lived in experience, a non-trans person will never be able to _fully_ understand a trans persons experience, and it is _incredibly_ frustrating being told something that is objectively false, and having people who misunderstand the situation being in charge of your situation.