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by rob74
1332 days ago
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Maybe the last bit is overly harsh - colleagues can become friends, and maybe also your boss, but I wouldn't trust my boss with this info either after only a few months. I mean, if this is supposed to be your dream job, and you already lack the motivation to put in the work after such a short time, even if they like you as a person, that might give them doubts about how you would fit in in the future. OTOH, if your boss has already noticed, saying something along the lines of "I'm actually really glad I have this job, it's my personal situation etc. that's bringing me down, but I'm working on it" (even if it's not 100% true) might be a good idea... |
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Your boss can be your friend, and prioritize their job over your friendship.
It's easy to get into a social position where we place too much trust into friendship driving the decisions people make.
Like you said, replacing that trust with distrust can block you, not only from the negative opportunities we want to avoid (like your boss firing you for burnout), but also the positive opportunities (like your boss helping you overcome the burnout).
It would be really convenient if either one of these choices (trust vs. distrust) was a clear winner, but it looks like neither of them is intrinsically better.
The silver lining is that your relationship with your boss isn't the only or most important relationship your can have. Even if you don't have the opportunity to get help from your boss to deal with your burnout, you can still seek help from others. Some people, like trained therapists, are well equipped and motivated to help.