[codingdave]

> I’m not sure if to tell my boss, tell the company or how to deal with it, because I can’t afford to loose this job with a family to support.

Looking at this from another angle, you cannot afford to keep this job because you have a family to support. A burnt-out parent is not helpful to their family. You need your energy to truly support them, and if this job is burning you out, then it is not working.

So yes - tell your boss. Tell your company. Either they will work with you and fix the problem, or they won't and you need to find something else. Either way, you are acting on a problem instead of stagnating in burnout. The short-term pain of finding new work is better than the long-term pain of being a burnt-out parent.

[ceejayoz]

The accuracy of this answer depends heavily on the size of OP's emergency fund.

[tartoran]

Telling employer is like self painting a target on ones back. The OP needs to find ways to buy time and heal. Im starting to get frustrated with how the industry is dealing with problems it creates and that is to discard anyone who is momentarily down. Burnout is a problem most of us face in IT and yet nobody talks about an official solution. Perhaps unionization would eventually solve this problem.

[pmg102]

A burnt-out parent with an income may be more helpful to their family than a happier parent without one, depending on other factors.