[johnsimer]

When my sister was sick the best thing we had was an entire church community helping us out - people taking turns babysitting, various people bringing food to us, people I barely knew and friends of people I barely knew offering help, people simply hanging out and being there for us, tons of people who had been thru similar things telling me I could call them at any time (I never did because I had trouble asking for help and acknowledging my emotions back then)

What I’m getting at is I’d assume the more of a community you can get around the situation, the better - and the greater the variety of needs that can be serviced (emotional or time-based) and the longer lasting that help can last. In a similar way to how constructing an org can be a lot more robust and capable than trying to solo a project

Sometimes just having someone(s) do some PM work to manage funeral arrangements, life insurance arrangements, closing down accounts, manage beneficiary distributions etc can be very helpful if motivation/discipline is hard or stressful to come by

Food for thought: after my sister and dad passed I had tons of people ask me how I was doing / “please you can talk to me anytime” and I’d say “I’m good” even though I was plagued with burnout, depression, anxiety for a few years etc. I’m in a much better spot now, but what I’m getting at is there can be a problem of that it may be near impossible to actually know how the person is doing, especially if they’re the type of person who doesn’t like sharing emotions or being a burden on others. Not exactly sure what you can do to fix it, just pointing it out