[hsn915]

Cleanup your room. Cleanup your appearance (hair, beard, cloths, etc).

Taking care of yourself reaffirms to your brain that you value yourself, and will get you moving again in the right direction.

If I may "guess" what's going on:

You are becoming a father but you weren't planning on it, or the mother is not the right person for you, but you feel obligated and so you have no choice?

First of all, you always have a choice. Do your duty, but do it out of your own volition, not out of fear of being seen in a negative light by society / parents / etc.

If you must, try doing things that would upset people whom scold you fear. Quit your job and try to find another one or become independent and work contracts while building up a business.

Do something that you believe in your gut is the right thing to do even though it will upset some people. You will feel such a relief. Now you can act out of your own volition.

Now, do this with every aspect of life. Do what you believe is right. Take people's input if you must, but own the decision and don't be afraid of their reactions.

[tartoran]

I also sugested this but as decluttering. I’ve done it years ago, my house is now emptyish, less furniture too as well as less stuff in general including the digital realm as well.

[hsn915]

Yea the biggest source of messiness is people not throwing out stuff they don't need. They think they "lose" something by throwing it out. In fact they are losing unimaginably by keeping garbage laying around.

[tartoran]

Absolutely. I want to add it’s not even garbage in some cases, just too much of anything can affect our psyche.

[fy20]

I would not suggest trying to change your job or start a business when you first become a father.

The first few months or so it's easy to leave everything to the mother, as the baby is basically just feeding and sleeping and pooping. It seems that you don't need to do much, so can take life easy and take on new projects. Wrong. This is when you need to do the most.

if you have family living nearby who can look after the child that will help a lot. If you don't, then sorry, you just need to accept that the next few years are going to be very demanding for you. If it's an option to relocate to be closer, I would highly suggest you take it.

[hsn915]

That's exactly why you should remove sources of stress.

If you are financially somewhat comfortable (I assume most people in tech are so, more or less), it's better to go independent.

The first few months you will be so busy and stressed out not only from the baby but from the wife too, specially given the possibility that OP is not on good terms with the mother of the child (not even sure if "wife").

Imagine being bossed around not only by your boss at your job that you are apathetic towards, but also by your wife, and obviously by the baby?

Resentment will grow.

Better be in control of at least one thing: your career.

[tux2bsd]

Make your bed as soon as you get up. (To add to your first sentence)

[HWR_14]

Why on earth would I ever "make" a bed. The only reason I ever do it is if guests are coming over, and on their bed.

I mean, unless you mean the process of putting on clean sheets. Obviously, I do that when I wash them (which also obviously isn't every day).

[angrais]

Make a bed means to move the duvet/top sheet so it covers the whole bed.

Reasons that you'd want to do this: hygiene (air doesn't get where you sleep - both a good and bad thing), and design (looks as it should).

[HWR_14]

Why on earth would it by hygienic to trap the sweat in the bed as opposed to letting things air dry? Air itself isn't unhygienic.

Meanwhile, design is a circular argument. It only "looks as it should" if you think you should make the bed.

[angrais]

For reference, I thought of those points of the fly so perhaps you or others can think of positive and negative points too.

I agree with you, which is why I personally fold down the top half of my bedding.

As for design/looks I likely described this wrong. Bedding is designed to be made full on the bed. It's not a circular argument. The design is best when the bed is made as you can see whatever design is on the pillows, sheet, etc.

Another reason: it's a small accomplishment that could be a good motivator for your day (especially if you're depressed).

[tux2bsd]

It's amazing that guy was confused.