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Nobody is gonna give you work life balance.It's something you have to make for yourself by setting boundaries.

If those boundaries aren't compatible with your current employer find a different one.

On-call doesn't have to be a nightmare either but it does mean prioritising reliability over feature work, often a be a hard sell to "the business" as they likely care more about revenue over your lack of sleep. Again it comes down to boundaries and sternly refusing to accrue the types of technical debt that are likely to cause issues.

Ultimately, you draw power from being the person with the ability to create software. It's on you to leverage that to build the lifestyle that you desire.