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by jonaf
1335 days ago
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Agree with this 100%, as a father of 5. I have 2 sped kiddos that are aseverely handicapped and even at 7 and 8 years of age they cant do many so-called mundane tasks. Also no one can or wants to watch them, including family. Also if you think child care is a difficult and expensive problem, try hiring one through an agency for sped kids. Also the prognosis is that they will be permanently dependent, so there's no light at the end of the tunnel. The only solution is to get acquainted with the idea that your life will never be what you wanted, and to stop comparing yourself and your career to others. If you can do that, you can talk yourself into committing to tomorrow. Not that tomorrow will be better for YOU, but your commitment to it affords a future for your family, or at least, 1 more day of future. |
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> The only solution is to get acquainted with the idea that your life will never be what you wanted, …
What I’ve found fascinating as I’ve gotten older is that the life I _wanted_ at different points in my life has never been what I ended up with later, but somehow that’s been okay and when I look back I always come to be thankful for every “setback”. Like Steve Jobs’ commencement speech, life has to be lived going forward but is only understood looking back.
You are certainly a stronger person as a result of having two special needs children, likely far more compassionate and understanding than you would have been otherwise.
I’ve heard the concert expressed as setbacks being our “divine moment” to move toward our true path. Maybe a bit woo woo but I certainly feel like my setbacks have put me on a more fulfilling path.