[pdm55]

My wife and I missed out on having kids. We wanted kids but it "didn't happen". Yes, I used to also lie awake at night. My wife went through the demanding IVF schedule a couple of times. I admire her for that.

How do we cope?

I was a school teacher and now being a tutor has given me some interaction with teens. I am grateful for this.

My wife loves animals. I think our pets have given her something to cuddle and care for.

I think the only bonus to not having had kids is that we have missed out on the pain that friends have gone through when their child has died through an accident or health problem.