[mattgperry]

> All major life decisions you make changes who you are. That's what makes them "major".

Meh. I'm married, bought multiple houses, moved country. I don't know how many major life decisions you can make but none of them have changed me in the way merely expecting a child already has. I expect when they're born will reveal the next 90% of that transition.

[neeleshs]

Hmm.. I've done all that and have a child and lost dear ones. And none of that has really changed me as a person, but each one has had a profound impact on my life (except buying a house).

As the parent comment says, they are just different and everyone has their own way of processing major events.