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by notch656a 1340 days ago
It's interesting how opinions on this change depending on how it's phrased.

Sometimes I see it phrased as older kids taking on some of the labor in what is perceived as maturity building activity that may serve them in adulthood.

Others use a completely different phrase, calling it "parentification" and then call it child abuse or worse, believing it's better for the kids to all fight for the resource of the parent rather than share the burden with older children.

I withhold a conclusion of what the results are. But it's funny to me to see how the opinions can be gamed based on how you frame it.

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A proffessional athlete was asked, in the context of a knockout tournament where different conpetitors had different waiting period between matches: "is it better to have more time and rest between the fights, or to have less time but more momentum?" She replied: "Whichever happens to you, you turn into a positive frame."
Or the 21st century version: Whichever happens to you, you turn it into a reason why you didn't succeed and you're not to blame.