[lazyasciiart]

People who are having kids because they "want to be better" can go ahead and just be better by helping take care of the kids already here who need it.

[dragonwriter]

In my experience, people who are having kids because they want to be better have something broken in their lives that they ought to to work on fixing before having kids, and the consequences if they don’t can be…quite bad.

Get a therapist for therapy, not a child.