[dbtonez]

he must, and i noted on another comment that if he is proceeding in this manner and is calm about it, then i should follow his lead and feel the same. no sense getting myself worked up and dreading an outcome that may never even come to fruition. i think what this post's replies have really opened my eyes to is that the burden of change rests on my shoulders and mine alone. i can take this scenario for what it is - an opportunity. maybe i won't have to troubleshoot, but at least i was there.