[orzig]

I held this attitude for the first few years of my career, having read hacker news in school. I have found that, for me, a more balanced approach works better. I have been through layoffs, but I have also gone to the weddings of coworkers and even managers.

Trying to keep that adversarial boundary was actually draining for me, so for any other young person out there reading this: moderation in all things

[kevinventullo]

There is a fundamental difference between developing camaraderie with coworkers and having any kind of loyalty to the company itself.

[dmurdoch]

Exactly this. I've generally loved the small teams I've been on, and keep in touch with co workers from every company I've worked for and left. But that doesn't mean I held any allegiance to the company that we both worked for. I like people not corporations. Yes it sucks to 'leave' your friends behind at a job, but if they're really your friends you'll still keep in touch.

[dalyons]

agreed. the overly cynical take is way too negative and draining for something that you spend like 1/3rd of your waking hours doing. Making light friendships and doing the occasional social thing can lead to _shock horror_ actually enjoying some of that work time. hardcore cynicism and clinical detachment leads to misery in its own right.