is this really a bad strategy though? Assuming we have enough jobs to apply to (in tech),
why not walk away once you feel your counterpart is not excited, and switch to the next one?
Yes, we could flip this around and say that men are more likely to bash their head against a wall. Women say “hmm, clearly I’m not getting anywhere with this, I’ll go try something else.” Which is better? Both strategies probably work out fine, but you’ll end up with fewer women in jobs which involve a lot of head-wall-bashing and a lot of evaluations without much support/guidance/encouragement (and surely programming is one of those jobs).