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by websitescenes
1352 days ago
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I’m on the spectrum and it sounds like you might be too. Often people find me blunt or abrasive. I used to worry about it and tried to meter myself for years but the only thing it got me was stress and I wasn’t being my authentic self. My best advice, be your authentic self. If that is abrasive to some, we’ll then so be it. I’d rather be abrasive than fake and waste time. If someone takes something astute as hurtful or demeaning then maybe you’re trying to run with the wrong crowd. |
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That being said, I don't think abrasiveness correlates as strongly to authenticity as you seem to imply. You do not need to be obsequious or to grovel for your coworkers' approval or to follow all of their norms, but you should treat them with respect in as much as you would want them to treat you with respect.
It's also an incredibly common and lazy copout, for downright mean/dickish/asshole people to claim their abrasiveness is "just who they are" and others need to "get used to them" or "grow a thicker skin". These people are generally toxic, and make it impossible to build a healthy workplace or team culture.
I don't believe you are one of those people, and I certainly hope you don't become one.