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> This was exactly what I had done to the past few therapists I had seen, and I wasn't trying to be disagreeable or charming or anything. I had simply stated what was my own reality: that I felt that my previous therapists didn't understand me.

I have not read that book, but that doesn't seem to be what Kahneman is talking about? He is talking about people who say "all these therapists have failed me, but YOU are different," like they are trying to charm the therapist. I think the red flag here is people who are turning the session into praise for the therapist, whereas the normal reaction when the session is going well would be to keep the focus on yourself so you can finally get some progress.

Also note that you can only say "all previous therapists misunderstood me except you" to one therapist. Anyone after that would effectively be the second. Granted, it's demoralizing, but it IS progress :)