[tremon]

My personal experience says that it's way better for the kid not to grow up in a dysfunctional household: they will grow up not even knowing what a functional relationship looks like. Just "being civil" to the other is not enough, kids will form their attachment models on how they see their parents interact.

If you want your kid to have successful relationships when they grow up, FFS don't let your kid grow up in an unsuccessful one.

[em-bee]

right, but once you have a failed relationship, either choice (stay together or separate) will have a negative impact. so really, the best way to salvage the kids future is to actually repair the relationship.

[caeril]

Yes. Children are 800-3000% more likely to be physically or sexually abused by the mother's live-in boyfriend or step-father than by their biological father, but we don't want them to have bad feels.

Good call.

[tester756]

what are absolute numbers? because % is useless